TO: Everyone EXCEPT Will Solace

[divasmio]

I've had the privilege of being pulled into this world alongside one of my children, and I'm determined to be the best father I can be to him now that I finally have the opportunity.

I'm starting to realize that I don't know what that looks like. Back home, I'd been able to periodically circumvent the... barriers keeping us apart through gifts and periodic visits, but I'm at a loss when it comes to being a father day-to-day.

Can anyone offer any general advice?

Comments

[inferiority_complex]

Well I don't know about your kid but I can tell you what didn't work with my dad. Periodic visits aren't going to mean much. Neither are gifts. At least, they didn't to me. Talk to him face to face. Get to know him. Listen to him. Teach him stuff. Don't take what time you have with him for granted.

And don't play favorites. It's not cool. Like really, really not cool.

[Why yes, Chris also has daddy issues, thanks for noticing.]

[divasmio]

No, I suppose in the grand scheme of things my visits and gifts haven't meant much. I very much intend to remedy that now.

But it's hard to tell where he needs me. He's so hardworking and set on doing things himself, and I'm afraid if I step in to lighten his load, I'll only get in his way.

[inferiority_complex]

Why are you trying to step in and lighten his load? Is he not doing a good job, do you not trust him? Or are you just trying to do things together?

He might not need you. But that doesn't mean he doesn't want you.

Tell him that. Just be honest with him. Both of you might not know what you're doing.

That doesn't mean you can't figure it out together.