divasmio: (2 confusion)
Phoebus Apollo (Lester Papadopoulos) ([personal profile] divasmio) wrote in [community profile] abraxasnet2024-08-09 11:49 pm

TO: Everyone EXCEPT Will Solace

I've had the privilege of being pulled into this world alongside one of my children, and I'm determined to be the best father I can be to him now that I finally have the opportunity.

I'm starting to realize that I don't know what that looks like. Back home, I'd been able to periodically circumvent the... barriers keeping us apart through gifts and periodic visits, but I'm at a loss when it comes to being a father day-to-day.

Can anyone offer any general advice?
divinityfrompain: (talking)

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[personal profile] divinityfrompain 2024-08-10 10:33 pm (UTC)(link)
In my experience, with people like that, you sometimes can reframe the way they're thinking in order to make it easier.

You: let me help
Them: no, I don't need help, I can do it!
You: I know you can do it, but it would make me happy and feel fulfilled if you'd let me do it with you.

For a community helper like Will, sometimes framing it as a joint effort or something you're not doing for him but for the same reasons he's doing it, helps make it less personal.

In general I think he wants you to be there, Apollo. To love him and be proud of him and want to be around him. Isn't that something you'd like from Zeus?